A Love Letter To Single Moms Everywhere

Written By Stepf Brinkley, raised by a Single Mom

 “I am a single Mom. What is your superpower?” - Unknown

When I was growing up, being a single mom carried this negative stigma that the mom is a lonely, bitter unfulfilled woman that has a broken hurt child and that they both lacked finances, love, fulfillment, joy, peace, and happiness.

THEY. WERE. WRONG.

Yes, there were some broken moments, but growing up from a capable single mother made me a complete, whole, mentally stable, successful adult. Dare I say, I think I am better off because my mom was a single parent! Growing up in a house with two damaged adults can wreak far more havoc than having one stable, capable mom.

I wanted to write this love letter to single moms everywhere, letting you know that you are a rare breed of genius. You carry a delicate combination of love, dedication, determination, fight, and nurture that can produce an incredible human being. 

Sometimes when you are in the middle of doing something it is hard to stop and step out of your current situation and really realize the impact you are making. Well, I believe I am sent here today, to speak to your heart, and let you know from the perspective of your child(ren) in the future, they are grateful!

I now have a successful marriage because my single mother showed me how to be a whole person, without a man.I always tell my single friends; you don’t get married to become whole. You become whole by yourself and two complete people come together to make a life as one.

I have a successful business because my single mom showed me what hard work and determination looks like.She graduated college and had a long successful career as a dental hygienist. She worked hard which taught me that I have no limits excepts the ones I put on myself.

My single mother gave me a head start. I went to private schools all my life and then graduated from one of the top 10 public Universities. A single parent provided a more financially stable life than most 2 parent homes. I will forever be grateful for the education and the experiences I had that cultivated me into the person I am today.

Lastly, my single mother showed me that one perfect love can cover a multitude of pain.From just the love of my single mother, I felt secure, cherished, confident and treasured. My mom loved me so well, that I never even tried to fill the hole that my father left with the attention of boys. As a matter of fact, I kept myself for my husband, because my mom gave me such a solid foundation to grow from. Her singleness made me whole.

Thank you to each and every single mom out there! You are truly a Single Mother Goddess. When you get exhausted and frustrated please think on my words and know that somewhere, someday your child is going to sit in their beautiful house, with their beautiful family and thank God for everything you did! This thank you is from them in advance.